Tanya BhatiaMind Performance & Emotional Regulation Coach (Life Coach) | Communication Coach | I coach YOU 1:1 & Corporate Groups to 1. Remove negativity, fear, stress, low confidence 2. Build Strong Communication Skills in career
I recently got married, I cried in front of my mother-in-law. Most people would assume the worst. This is not that story.
I am celebrating 6 months to my marriage.
From the very first day I stepped into my new family, she made me feel like she’s my home and comfort.
Last December afternoon, I was quietly overwhelmed : not by stress or botheration but by the sheer weight of how much love I receive from her and everyone in the family.
Tears of joy kept flowing from my eyes.
She saw my eyes and held space for me for a few seconds without saying anything and then she said,
"Tell me what happened. I can’t see a tear in your eyes. If you are happy, I am happy."
For 5 minutes, I couldn't explain to her that I wasn’t sad and that these were just the tears of joy and love.
When I get serious sometimes while contemplating on my professional goals,
she is the one who reminds me to laugh, and not just perform under pressure.
We both then sing and laugh together for like 5 minutes and then I resume work.
As I build my business, I get reminded of her words she told me a few months ago.
“Tanya, I will do everything possible to support you in your professional journey. That’s a promise.”
She feels so happy sharing her saree collection with me like she's sharing her heart with me.
The best part : She allows me to be a silly child in front of her. I feel safe being one.
What I've come to understand, both professionally and personally, is this:
Healed people heal people.
Secure people raise secure people.
When a home operates from love, not fear, not control, not performance :
the nervous system finally exhales.
Many clients who have worked with me, have said to me that they feel happy in my company. I want to give this credit to my 2 families - my biological parents and my in-laws. And, a special gratitude to my life partner too.
Because of them, my nervous system is at rest, and I show up better.
At work. With people. In life.
Not every daughter-in-law gets this. I know that.
What I have received is God’s gift that many don’t receive and I am extremely grateful for it.
I genuinely believe when a family has enough love to give, when they are secure and rooted in themselves, a daughter-in-law will only ever be nurtured.
Today, if you are overwhelmed by your daily goals and targets but you have a family back home, who cheers for you and makes your Nervous System feel safe, you have a solid reason to be grateful for!
Be grateful 🤍
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